According to science, it is possible to change the way your brain works, but only up to a certain age.
This is why kids can learn new things very easily, but as people grow older they stop learning and stay the same.
Did you know that most people wait 10 years before looking for a solution to their shyness?
And the longer you wait, the older you get, the less your brain is able to learn or change.
The fact that you’re reading this article tells me you may have already reached a point where you feel your shyness is NOT going away on its own… or you fear it’s getting worse and worse.
And I don’t want you to waste one more day living a life where you feel left out, bored or depressed because you don’t have the relationships which would make you happy.
That’s why I’ve put together this page to help you avoid the worst mistakes that keep many people stuck with shyness for years… often giving up hope of ever improving as you watch other people have interesting “normal” lives without you.
Yet this doesn’t have to happen.
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Before I get to the tips, let me ask you a few questions:
- Do you ever get a blank mind around people? This means you don’t know what to say in conversations, even leading to embarrassing awkward silences.
- Do you feel nervous even before you go into a social situation? For example: feeling tense, sweating, shaking, or feeling your heart beating fast before you have to talk in front of a group of people.
- Do you find it hard to talk and connect with new people? This can lead to having not many “real” friends, staying inside your home alone a lot, and being a virgin much longer than normal.
- Do you have imaginary conversations with people in your head? These are often people you’re too scared to talk to in real life.
- Do you often feel very self conscious? This means being insecure about the way you look, or being painfully aware of everything you say and do when you know people are watching.
If you answered YES to some of these questions, then you definitely know how shyness feels like.
So what’s the deal?
Why do you have all these problems? Is it genetics? A chemical imbalance? Was it the way your parents raised you?
In a minute, I’ll show you what new research reveals is the true biological root cause of your shyness.
Once you know what this is, you will also know the only effective treatment that can help you eliminate shyness permanently.
I’ve uncovered some little-known tips, tricks and strategies that can help you get the confidence, friends and romance you want.
Don’t believe me yet, just read this entire article to the end.
Warning: these tips may go against a lot of the advice you’ve heard before. BUT that’s because most people don’t know the truth about shyness. So here are the WORST mistakes you must AVOID all costs.
1. You must IGNORE 95% of the articles, books and advice out there.
The first thing I did when I was ready to get rid of my own shyness was type in “How to overcome shyness” into Google. And I read dozens, maybe hundreds of those articles.
Unfortunately, the advice you’ll find in most articles online is simply too basic like telling you to:
- “Think about what’s the worst that can happen.”
- “Just focus more on other people.”
- “Fake it ’til you make it!”
- Or even “Just do it!”
They tell you to stop caring what people think, but they never say HOW!! And they never talk about your REAL problems, like not knowing what to say, how to stop looking nervous or how to get a girlfriend.
And even the BOOKS about shyness weren’t much better.
The authors usually spent a hundred useless pages talking about the background psychology of shyness. And when it came to how to actually cure it… they just said to take small steps and write down your thoughts to see if they are negative.
Great, thanks modern psychology.
After a few weeks of reading the same unrealistic, unclear and common advice repeated over and over again, I came to a shocking conclusion:
The people who write these articles and books never had shyness themselves.
And someone who has never had our problem cannot KNOW which advice works and which doesn’t. All they can do is repeat what they read in some other self help book. It’s usually advice that sounds good on paper, but doesn’t actually help because it’s too simple.
So it’s really not your fault that all the shyness tips or advice you’ve heard up until now have not helped you. (If they had, then you wouldn’t be reading this article, would you?) The real problem is all those so-called writers and “experts” who only care about their next pay check, not if their advice works in real life.
That brings me to the 2nd tip.
2. Shyness Is NOT “All In Your Head”
If you have shyness, then you are an incredibly courageous person. You are amazing because nothing compares to battling with your own brain every single day.
Other people don’t understand how hard it is for you to do simple things like talk to someone you find attractive or have fun at a party… or even get invited to a party in the first place!
My parents often used to tell me that “it’s all in your head.” They didn’t understand that I had no control over how nervous, awkward and quiet I was around people. I would never CHOOSE to be this way!
The truth is that shyness is NOT “all in your head.” And you cannot “just get over it” any more than someone can “just get over” cancer.
The Real Biological CAUSE Of Shyness
I’m sure you’ve heard of the “fight or flight response” before, haven’t you? It’s a fancy scientific word for FEAR.
Shyness is fear at its core. You’re afraid of people’s eyes on you, of being judged, of embarrassing yourself, of making a mistake in front of everyone, of not saying the right thing. The way you feel before talking in front of a group of people is probably similar to what most people feel before jumping out of a plane.
Fear is what you feel when there’s danger in your environment. It’s like an “alarm system” that helps you react quickly to threats. That’s why scientists often call fear the “fight or flight response” — it helps you to fight a danger or run away from it.[1] And usually fear or anxiety is a good thing.
Imagine if a caveman saw a big tiger and he didn’t feel fear? The tiger would eat him. But if the caveman saw the tiger and instantly felt fear, then he would know to quickly hide or run into a cave to get away from the tiger.
USUALLY Fear Helps You Survive…
But sometimes this “alarm system” in your brain gets programmed in the wrong way. This can happen through your genetics, through childhood experiences, or both.[2]
When this happens, your “fight or flight response” is activated even when there isn’t any real danger. This is why you automatically start to feel nervous, awkward and tense in normal everyday social situations. It’s why you automatically become quieter and talk less around people you don’t know well compared to your 1-2 closest friends.
So the bad news is that your brain has been accidentally “programmed” to feel shyness. Just like a computer is programmed to work a certain way.
This means no amount of trying to THINK or talk your way out of shyness will work. See, your “fight or flight response” doesn’t understand psychology or self help books. It doesn’t understand when you repeat to yourself “what’s the worst that can happen?”
And even though you’re smart enough to know “there’s nothing to be afraid of” like other people probably tell you, you still feel this way anyway. No, shyness is not “all in your head,” it’s programmed DEEP into the fear part of your brain, into your biological survival instincts.
Now, stick with me because there is some BIG good news…
What To Do Next
You now know WHY all the other advice for shyness doesn’t work for most people. The articles, books and advice are not specific enough to be effective. And they don’t target the root biological cause of your shyness. So the next step is clear…
If you want to permanently eliminate your social anxiety, you need to know HOW to reprogram your “fight or flight response” so that you do not automatically become quiet, awkward or nervous in social situations.
- Can you imagine how much better your life would be if you could quickly stop feeling anxious, nervous or self conscious anytime you needed before anyone even noticed?
- Can you feel how much easier it would be to talk to people without ever running out of things to say, and stop being called quiet… if only you could feel confident and in control all the time?
- Can you see how much more your coworkers, classmates or family would respect you… how much better you would do at your career, and how much more attractive you would be to the opposite sex if you could “turn off” your insecurities, awkwardness and shyness?
In fact, what if I told you there IS a proven way to reprogram your “fight or flight” response? A set of insights, techniques and strategies based on cutting-edge science that can permanently turn off the shy part of your brain like turning off a light switch?
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